Thursday, September 7, 2017

Don't Reinvent The Wheel

It is an expression we all know and use quite often, and we are going to take this expression to heart. Don't reinvent the wheel.

You may have read our recent post entitled Foster Hope, where we laid out our vision to help support foster families in our county. We have since come across an organization out of Indianapolis who is already doing the very thing we are wanting to do. Not only are they doing what we want to do, but they were willing to train us and share with us everything we need in order to do the same thing in northern Indiana. This amazing organization is called Hands of Hope. Laura and Suzy have been great to work with and their willingness to share with us the resources they have developed is going to save us hours and hours and hours of time.

So with no further ado; we would like to announce our new initiative; Care Communities (formerly known as Foster Hope).

Care Communities Introduction

Nationally, 50% of foster families quit either after their first year or after their first placement, primarily because they did not feel supported. The Care Communities model has been proven to retain up to 95% of those foster parents.

Care Communities are teams of 6-8 people that wrap around a foster family with the purpose of supporting them. Members choose which role they want to play in the care community.
Sometimes a picture helps
Roles in a Care Community

Family Helper: Serves the family in tangible ways including meals, house cleaning, laundry, errands, yard work,etc.

Child Mentor: This role is more involved with the life of the child. Child Mentors will provide childcare at least twice a month. Childcare is the area where foster parents need the most support and tend to receive the least.

Team Leader: This role allows for organization of the team as well as you getting to be very involved with the foster family. Generally, tasks will require a time investment of less than an hour per week. Responsibilities include a weekly phone call to the foster family, and a weekly email updating the team on needs of the foster family. The team leader can also serve as a family helper or child mentor.

Interim Caregiver: This role provides overnight care for the foster family when needed.

Are You Interested?
If you live in northern Indian and are interested in starting a care community where you live, we would love to help. Please contact Anthony Troyer at for more information.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Oasis - The Concept

Oasis is our vision to help support youth aging out of foster care. We are planning on doing this by creating an Intentional Neighboring Community (INC). You can read more about it on our website here.

The Why

The simple answer to the question, "Why would you want to do this?" is: We are failing. This graphic pretty much sums it up.

INC Approach

  1. Assistance is community driven
  2. Based off the universal need for caring relationships
  3. Those facing serious social challenges become assets to the community
  4. Capacity for ordinary people of all ages to care about and for one another

What Does This Look Like

Here is a little idea of what something like this could look like. We are very excited to see what the future holds.
Housing Key
Blue - aging out youth
Yellow - Single family homes
Orange - Senior housing, singles, small families

If you are interested in giving to this project, you can do so here.

Foster Hope

A new initiative to bring hope and healing to the children of Elkhart County. Maybe you can do something like this in your area. Here are the details.
The Need

Foster Kids
  • Elkhart County has 250+ kids in "out of home" foster care
  • 1 out of every 5 of those kids are placed in homes outside of Elkhart County
  • Over 100 kids do not have Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA's) to advocate for their needs in court
  • There are over 2,200 children in the state of IN waiting to be adopted. 50% of those are under the age of 8
Foster/Adoptive Parents
  • About 50% of foster parents quit within a year of their first placement
  • Many attribute it to a lack of support from their family, friends, and caseworkers, as well as a lack of preparation for the erratic behaviors of children from hard places
The Misunderstanding

Entering into foster care without being properly prepared can be very damaging to both the foster family and to the foster child/ren. If the placement has to be disrupted and the children placed into a different home the child/ren will only experience more trauma. The need is too great to be handled by isolated individual families assisted by the government. It needs be a function of the church with organized support groups to assist foster and adoptive parents.

The Proposal

Our desire is to function as a liaison between the state and local church to communicate needs. We want to partner with local faith communities to help them figure out how to get involved and provide training and resources to help them be successful. Our involvement might include:
  • Starting an orphan care ministry
  • Expanding an orphan care ministry
  • Recruiting "Support Families" to focus on supporting current foster families
  • Trainings on how to care for children from hard places
  • Connecting with other faith communities to share information on support groups, bible studies, ministry partnerships, etc. 
Desired Outcomes
  • Empower churches to figure out how they can most effectively care for local orphans
  • To have a permanent surplus of foster families and CASA's in Elkhart County
  • To see the majority of local faith communities involved in some way. There are roughly the same number of churches in Elkhart County as there are foster kids. We would love to see every congregation play a role in their care.

Monday, June 19, 2017

June 18, 2017

June 18th came and went. For me, it was a special day. My kids and wife took me out for breakfast and I gorged myself on pancakes. I received notes and letters from my kids that were filled with kind words and gratitude. I called my dad to tell him thank you, wish him a happy Father's Day, and tell him I loved him. All of this is pretty much what every Father's Day has been like in my life from the time I could remember. This was and is my reality and I am so grateful for that.

Not everyone is as fortunate as me. On Father's Day evening we watched the movie "The Shack." In this movie one of the main conflicts of the main character is how his broken, abusive, and messed up relationship with his earthly father affected how he viewed his relationship with God. Likewise, I am currently reading "Unashamed" by Lecrae. The morning after Father's Day this is what I read:
I have never called anyone "Dad" my entire life, so thinking about God as my Father felt weird. As a child and teenager, I wondered if my biological father abandoned me because I wasn't good enough or worthy of love. I felt like maybe one day I could earn his respect, affection, and presence. This distorted view of what a father is like bled into the way I related to God.

I am not sure anyone would deny that our relationships, or lack thereof, with our fathers here on earth affect how we might view or relate to God. With this being said, think about the millions of children who have no father, think about the hundreds of thousands of children in the US who are currently in foster care, and think about the children who have had their fathers walk out on them.

One of the many things I love about God is that He is a redeeming God. He takes old and broken things and makes them new and whole. When we chose to be involved in adoption and foster care, we get the opportunity to be part of God's redeeming plan in the life of that child. We get the opportunity to model the love of a father so that whatever their distorted view of a father is, it will not continue to bled into the way they relate to God.

Wednesday, May 10, 2017

2017 Dodgeball Tournament

A new champion has been crowned. Congratulations to the "Ninja Turtles," our 2017 Champions.

This year's runner up was J2 Marketing.
And our 3rd place team was Elk Vegas Ballaz.
A special thanks to all of our sponsors:
1. Home Again Consignment
2. North Side Appliance
3. First Place Trophy - Elkhart IN
4. Hose & Go Car Wash

And a special thanks to our title sponsor
The Elkhart County Sheriff's Department

Here are a few more pics of our tournament.

Exciting Announcement

We are excited to announce that Anthony and Lauren Troyer are back from the Train the Trainer class that is offered by Empowered to Connect. This training has enabled them to teach the same nine week trainings that Stacey and I (Matt) teach to adoptive and foster parents. We are so excited to have another couple who will be teaching these trainings in the Michiana area. We currently have over 20 couples interested in the training. They are excited to start training this fall.

A Special Thanks

We were awarded a grant from the Community Foundation of Elkhart County to help pay for the Troyers to attend this training. We would like to thank everyone at the Community Foundation of Elkhart County, your investment will have a direct impact on the lives of children in our community who are facing some overwhelming life circumstances. Thank you for your generosity.

Tuesday, April 11, 2017

What Is The Simulcast Like?

This past weekend, on April 7th and 8th, we held the Empowered to Connect Simulcast at Grace Community Church in Goshen, IN. It was a great weekend with some amazing speakers sharing about how to help kids from hard places. Here is a little look at some things that were covered.

Special thanks to Grace for letting us use their facility

Teaching our kiddos to self-regulate

Which of these 3 do your kids tend to do?

Some practical ideas to use with our kids

We cannot ignore their physical needs

Connection is always the goal

This event was even trending on Twitter

Follow the map
 If you were not able to join us this year, we hope that you will be able to join us in 2018. It will be on April 13th and 14th at the same location in Goshen. It also counted for 11 hours of continuing education hours for foster parents. So if you need some hours, plan on attending next year. If you are interested in hosting the Simulcast in your area, please let me know, I would love to help you any way that I can. Feel free to reach out to me at